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How will my brother cope at secondary school?

Many siblings are concerned about how their disabled brothers and sisters will cope with moving to a bigger school. They wonder if teachers will understand their brother or sister’s needs and if other pupils will be kind to them. It is a big change for all children going to secondary school, but siblings know that it is can be harder for children who need support with learning, communicating and with making friends. Parents may also be feeling worried about this and that affects siblings too.

Some things you can do if you are worried about your brother or sister moving to secondary school


Tell your parent what is worrying you so that they can help you.


Ask your parent to tell you about the plans that have been made at the new school to support your brother or sister when they get there.


Ask your teacher to help you make a plan for things you can do if you are worrying during the day.


Tell your friends about your brother or sister so that they understand if you are finding things hard.

"I told my teacher that my sister would be starting at my school and she helped me work out what I was most worried about. We have a plan for who I can talk to if things get too much at school."

More about the future

Many siblings wonder about the future. They want to be able to lead their own lives and also want their brothers and sisters to have good lives too.

Sibling info about disability

Many siblings find it hard to understand disability. Find out about different disabilities and conditions here.

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Need some information or advice? You can ask our sibling advisor any question about sibling issues.