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I feel guilty

Siblings of disabled children sometimes feel guilty about being able to do things that their brother or sister can’t. Or they feel guilty about not wanting to play with their brother or sister all the time. It is a confusing feeling as many siblings feel this at times when they want to enjoy themselves or do their own thing.

Some things you can do if you feel guilty


Remember that it is OK for you to do things that you like and to enjoy your own life.


Remind yourself that your brother or sister’s disability or illness is not your fault. That is just how it is.


Instead of feeling guilty that your brother or sister can’t do things, think of all the things you do together that are fun.

I asked my mum if me and my friend could go into town without my sister. She was fine about it and understood that it was good for me to spend time with my friends.

More about feelings

It is normal for siblings to feel a whole mixture of feelings and to find some of them hard to deal with.

Sibling info about disability

Many siblings find it hard to understand disability. Find out about different disabilities and conditions here.

Ask our sibling advisor

Need some information or advice? You can ask our sibling advisor any question about sibling issues.