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Meeting other bereaved siblings online

Our bereaved siblings group is a friendly peer support group for siblings whose disabled brother or sister has died. Some siblings may be in their first year of bereavement, others in their fifty-first – all are welcome. It is not a therapy group and some siblings prefer to attend counselling before (or alongside) coming to this group.

There are limited spaces in the bereavement group, so that the conversation is manageable and to allow everyone time to give and receive support. This group will meet 5 times over the next 10 months. It is a closed group – so if you’re interested in joining, please sign up by 19th May 2021. Anyone joining after this date, will be added to the waiting list for the next available cohort.

Bereaved siblings are also welcome to join a local group at any time, if they prefer to discuss sibling experiences widely.

To join our bereaved adult sibling support group (or a local group), click here.

Coping with grief during the pandemic

Rory Kinnear shares his experiences of bereavement as a sibling:

Coping with grief during the coronavirus outbreak:

Coping with the loss of your disabled brother or sister

Issues specific to the loss of a disabled brother or sister:

  • Experiencing disenfranchised grief i.e. the way you grieve is not considered socially acceptable or the grief isn’t considered worth it. People may say things like: ‘Her health has always been bad…’ ‘He wasn’t expected to have a full life expectancy…’
  • Loss of role and identity – You may have been one of the main caregivers for your brother or sister and may feel a loss for the caring role you undertook
  • Anger – You may feel very angry that services or treatments were not available for your brother or sister, or that he or she was treated with less dignity than others in hospital or a care home
  • Guilt – You may feel guilty about things like – how much time you have spent with your brother or sister; resentment about care tasks; relief that you will not have to care in the future; having survived…

Coping strategies:

  • Give yourself time. There is no set time or pattern for grief and it varies for everybody. Be patient and take the time you need, without feeling pressure
  • Find a way to express your grief. For some siblings, this will be talking to a close friend. For others, this will be keeping a diary, or using music or art. Some will put together a memory box. Find a way that works for you. There is no ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ way
  • Keep healthy. Looking after your physical health is a good way of keeping you mentally healthy. Take regular exercise and make sure you eat and sleep as well as you can

You are not alone. Click here to read our full information and coping strategies for bereaved siblings.

Coronavirus bereavement support

  • Sudden is an early intervention service providing emotional and practical support in the first ten weeks following an unexpected bereavement. Read advice from the charity Sudden on COVID-19 bereavement. Call their helpline on 0800 2600 400, Mon – Fri 10am – 4pm
  • The National Bereavement Partnership provides a support helpline, counselling referral and befriending service for all those suffering from bereavement, grief, living loss, mental health issues, and those affected by the COVID-19 pandemic. Call their helpline on 0800 448 0800, Text 07860 022 814 or use their online chat service. Available 7 days a week, 7am – 10pm

 


This page was last updated: 20th April 2021

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