As a parent you may find there are times when you need a bit of extra information and help with parenting siblings. Use these pages to get information and tips on supporting siblings, and to get advice on dealing with sibling issues.
Why it’s important to tell siblings
It helps siblings understand why things are different with their brother or sister. For example, a sibling can understand that their brother or sister gets more attention from a parent because they need more help, and not because the parent loves the disabled child more.
It helps improve the relationship between siblings and their disabled brothers and sisters. For example, a sibling whose brother or sister has difficultly with playing, can understand that this is because of the disability, and not because their brother or sister doesn’t like them.
If parents don’t tell siblings about the diagnosis the effect on siblings is usually worse than telling them. They may hear things from others or read things on the internet which may not be correct. They may make up their own version of what is happening, which may be worse than the reality. When they find out that you have kept the diagnosis from them, they may feel angry and mistrustful of you.