You are not alone. Many adult siblings juggle multiple responsibilities, feel isolated and need support in their sibling role. Use these pages to get information on sibling issues, and to make contact with other adult siblings in the UK.
Many siblings find themselves in the role of carer for their brother or sister either on a full or part time basis. It is equally important to care for yourself as well. Carers are at risk of developing health problems due to the physical and mental demands of caring. Many adult siblings are managing multiple responsibilities of care for their disabled brother or sister, for their own children, and for their elderly or ill parents. It is vital to look after yourself.
Let your GP know that you are a carer and ask her/him to write the details on your medical notes. She/he can then invite you in for regular medical checks, vaccinations, and screening for specific conditions. GP's can also refer you on to other support services such as counselling, social services, and training with lifting. Put dates in your diary to attend the dentist and have regular eye tests.
Let Social Services know that you are a carer and ask for a Carers Assessment . Ask Social Services for support with caring. See Carers UK information on what help is available for carers.
Talk to your family, friends and neighbours about how much caring you do. Ask them if they will be willing to provide support with some aspect of this – such as doing shopping, sitting with your brother or sister while you go out, taking on the caring role while you have a holiday or a day off.
You may feel that you have no choice but to care continuously without a rest or a break. Yet carers who do take some time off for themselves or give themselves a regular treat, say that they come back to the routine care jobs feeling more energized and refreshed, and with more emotional energy. Do something each day that you really enjoy and that is nurturing for you.
Talk to your local carers' worker about your needs and feelings, as well as finding out more about what support is available in your area. This person will also be able to advocate on your behalf to help you get the support you need. Attending a local carers group may also be helpful. For details of your local carers' centre or group visit Carers UK
Share your feelings and concerns about caring with other adult sibling carers at Sibs online forum for adult siblings